As businessmen, we’ll put a significant amount of thought into the terms we agree to in our professional lives. But do we do the same with our family agreements?
When I look at the challenges I have with my kids, especially with screen time or chores, I’ve come to realize that it’s because the agreement isn’t clear. What are the boundaries and consequences for not doing what they agreed to?
What’s really crazy is that less than an hour before recording this interview, I was having a discussion with my wife about why we don’t see eye to eye on certain things. Her response was, “It’s because we don’t trust each other in those areas.” I think she nailed it with that answer.
That’s why the timing couldn’t be any more perfect to have this conversation with Daniel Matalon about agreements and trust. Daniel is a social impact producer, the Founder of #IsThereEnough, and co-founder of Impact Launchpad.
The universe is definitely speaking to me right now; I just need to listen.
In our conversation, Daniel talks about what it really means to build trust with our family through agreement and understanding. You’ll learn how we can give our kids a choice with that trust and that letting them make the wrong choice is okay. We should support them, but also let them know that there are consequences for those decisions.
He also talks about how the opposite of agreement is not disagreement, and how the path to avoid conflict is through agreement. And above all, how we can inspire our kids to become who they are, instead of who we think they should be.
There are so many takeaways from this chat that I had to stop and let the moment breathe a few times. I hope you’ll get a ton of value from this episode and that some of you will bring a few of these topics back to your FRD Bands. Let’s keep the conversation going fellas.
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Daniel Matalon Podcast Highlights
- What drives Daniel to play the world game, and make everything work for 100% of humanity.
- How trust is built through agreements, especially small ones, because our children want to be trusted and empowered.
- The opposite of agreement is not disagreement, it’s war. And collaboration is a better outcome than winning.
- As parents or coaches, we should help our kids become who they are, not who we think they should be.
- Why the things we struggle with always seem to hear their ugly heads, even though we think they’re in the past.
- Why the ultimate answer to #IsThereEnough is, “What are we going to do about it?”
Khalil Gibran’s Poem
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Daniel Matalon Links & Other Resources
- The First Agreement: Choosing a New Human Story by Daniel T. Matalon
- Buckminster Fuller
- Robert Kiyosaki
- Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki
- The Gottman Institute
- The 17 Sustainable Development Goals of the United Nations
- Kahlil Gibran
- Kahlil Gibran – Children (Poem)
- Don Miguel – The Four Agreements
- Jim Rohn
- Matt Drinkhahn
Daniel Matalon Bio
Daniel is father of two, a social impact producer, investor, and Climate Reality Leader. After co-founding Impact Launchpad, he founded #IsThereEnough, a global campaign of financial inclusion and social justice.
His mission has taken him to more than 20 countries engaging with social, political and business leaders to forge a new way of understanding and affecting sustainable wealth and survival.
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